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10 differences between porn and real sex

Like you most probably know, the sex you see in porn videos is far from an exact representation of sex in real life. There is no way having sex on camera can be similar to having sex behind the curtains of your bedroom with no one watching. If you were of the school of thought that what you have been fapping to can be substituted for the real thing, I’m genuinely sorry for bursting your bubble. And just to set the record straight, the following are some of the things that differentiate porn from sex in real life.

1.      Sex positions

Some of the positions you see in porn videos are extremely hard to pull off unless you and your partner are professional gymnasts. Granted, these positions are interesting, but some of them are not only uncomfortable but may also be painful for your female partner. Then there is the frequent change of positions. While this can be used to spice up a sexual relationship in real life, it is difficult to achieve so many positions. You may also want to consider that porn stars are professionals who do what they do for money, not necessarily for the pleasure.

2. Hair down there

I’m sure you have noted that porn actors have no hair ‘down there’ or indeed in any part of their body except their heads. For purposes of clarity, to reach such a level of ‘hairlessness’ is not only a very tedious process but one that may also involve some pain you may not be ready to experience. And for what? While having no hair in their nether regions may actually be the ideal situation; it is not easily achieved. In real life, it is only better to just move in with your partner’s flow. The lack of hair by pornstars (both male and female) is done deliberately for the camera and may not be achieved in real life.

3. Time of arousal

From a significant portion of porn, I think you have consumed; you may have noted that women get aroused the very moment a guy walks through the door and shows his penis. This is not true. It takes much longer than that in real life to get a woman in the groove. 10-12 minutes may be enough for some while others need like 30 minutes to get in the mood. What I’m saying is, it takes much more than just unzipping your pants to get a woman screaming with pleasure. Don’t believe everything you watch.

4. Sex with strangers

One of the most commonly used opening shots in porn videos is a woman meeting with a total stranger and a couple of minutes later (sometimes even less), they are already fucking each other. That is not something that is likely to happen in real life. Most women like to talk to a guy and get to know a little about them before allowing him between their legs. If you were thinking you will walk into a bar and the next moment you are being laid, my friend, wake up from your slumber. Unless you are in a brothel, no way are you having sex that easily.

5. Lesbian sex

If porn is to be believed, then the number of women in lesbian relationships is the most normal event in any sex romp. Wrong. In reality, the women who’ve had real lesbian experience is actually as low as 11.5%. If you are a lady and you were thinking every girl out there cannot wait to get down on you, your bubble has been busted. Most of those women have never had such an experience.

6. Threesome

This is yet another event that porn videos like to portray as normal when in reality few people get to experience it. The threesome may include two men and a single girl or vice versa, but only about only 20% of women have ever been in a threesome, whether it included two men or another woman. Most women may fantasise about it but are too shy to pursue it in real life. You may find a lady who is willing to go the extra mile but don’t think it’s something that happens every day like porn videos would have you believe.

7. The size of the man’s shaft

The most commonly asked questions by men is whether their dicks are long or big enough to satisfy a woman. Do not make the mistake of comparing your dick with those in porn videos. Most of the male porn stars have penises ranging from 6-9 inches. The average male penis size is actually about 5.5 inches. What you should know that it is not the size of the penis that matters, it is how you use it that does.

8. Orgasm through penetrative sex

Again this only happens in porn videos and rarely during real sex. Very few women reach orgasm through penetrative sex. The part of a woman that will help her orgasm is the clitoris (and the elusive G spot, if you manage to find it). 70% of women never reach orgasm through fucking. The women in porn videos may either be faking the orgasm or are a rare breed of women who orgasm during vaginal sex.

9. Squirting

This, like you have probably noted, is a common occurrence in porn. This is when a woman squirts out a liquid during an orgasm. I agree it’s very exciting to watch but in real sex? That’s not happening.  Only about 6% of women achieve the squirt. So, don’t stress yourself out trying to get your woman to squirt because it probably won’t happen.

10. Men lasting long

Perhaps too long, don’t you think? You see, men in porn videos may even last a whole day but in real sex? Never. That’s never going to happen. The average time a man lasts is three minutes. If you last anywhere near those minutes, stop worrying. It’s perfectly normal and you are not having a premature ejaculation. However, if you have a persistent problem performing for your partner, I strongly advise you consult a sexologist.

Conclusion

The myths have been shattered. What you see in porn videos is choreographed and made to look perfect for the camera, something that’s close to impossible in real sex. Do not kill yourself trying to perform like professional pornstars because chances are you will fail miserably.

Watch smut but stay real.

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