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10 things you should do to get an orgasm during sex

The issue of female orgasm has been a mysterious one throughout the years. Research has shown that only 18% of sexually active women have experienced orgasm. Many men wrongly believe that the primary purpose of sex is to ‘give’ their women a wild orgasm. Actually, nothing could be further from the truth. Think of it like a comedian who makes jokes, but doesn’t necessarily ‘make’ his audience laugh. Orgasm, just like laughter, is something that emanates from within, if the conditions are right.

What if I told you that scream-inducing and toe-curling orgasms are not confined to legendary movies and porn videos? That’s right. It is possible for a woman to have a happy ending during sex, and here are ten things you should do to put the ‘oh’ in orgasm.

1. Delayed Gratification

They say the best things come to those who wait. Controlling your orgasm so that you keep your partner on the brink for as long as possible is one way to achieve that. Research has shown that men and women experience the most mind-blowing orgasms when they both take part in delayed gratification. Forget anything you may have watched in porn movies for a moment, being on the brink until your genitals can’t take it anymore can only have one outcome: a forceful finale aka wild orgasm.

2.      Locate the G-spot

Yes, this magical spot exists. A woman should learn how to locate her magical area and teach her partner how to do it. Try doggy style. It is easier to locate the g-spot through this style during vaginal intercourse since the tip applies pressure on the g-spot more naturally. Fingers can do it well too. Being on top also helps a woman because she is in control of the depth and speed of the thrusts meaning she will control how her g-spot gets hit time and again.

3.      Stimulate the Clitoris

There are minimal chances of achieving orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. It may happen in porn, but in reality, it’s not likely. Over three-quarters of women need clitoral stimulation for that. Caress it using your hand, tongue, or a vibrator. This area contains as many sensitive nerve endings as the penis. Discuss with your partner how she wants it because even a gentle touch on the clit may be too intense for some.

4.      Touch Her

By this I don’t only mean the genitals, it’s the whole body. Believe it or not, every square inch of her body is a sensitive playground waiting to be discovered. Try and touch her everywhere. Think of sex as a whole body kind of thing that genitals are simply a part of. Some of the sensitive non-genital parts to target include ears, neck, and the back of her knees. Could be the only thing she needs to have that elusive orgasm.

5.      Do It Slowly

Slow things down a notch. Again, ignore the bam you may have seen in porn. An extended sensual warm up maybe what the woman needs to orgasm.  You see, women take a considerably longer time to warm up to genital play as compared to men. Do everything with half the speed. At least 30 minutes of kissing, full body massage and cuddling should precede any penetration.

6.      Use a Lubricant

The wetter the pussy, the better. Sometimes it is difficult to make a woman’s genitals erotically sensitive and that’s where a lubricant comes in. Remember; DO NOT squirt lube directly on a woman’s genitals. It will feel cold. Instead, apply some on your hands and rub with your fingers to make it warm before touching her. Trust me, she will be erotically sensitive, and this will bring her to orgasm.

7.       Try a Vibrator

No matter what you try, some women will still find it hard to orgasm. Some need the intense stimulation that only vibrators can provide. Many men are hesitant to take vibratos to bed for fear of being ‘replaced.’ What rubbish! Since when did power tools replace carpenters? The vibrators will not do half the things a man can do to a woman, but if it helps her achieve orgasm, why the hell not? Just talk it out with your partner.

8.      Choose a Position

This one goes without saying. Women need to be comfortable and the kinkier and pleasured the position, the higher the chances of her achieving orgasm.  Sex experts recommend that the woman should sit in an upright position with her back facing the wall or headboard while facing her partner. This increases the blood flow to her most sensitive areas, the results of which you should know.

9.      Avoid Alcohol

You read that right. Save this alcoholic beverage for later occasions. Alcohol decreases your libido and physiological arousal. Granted, alcohol can subjectively increase a woman’s arousal, but its physical effects can prevent you from going all the way. Do yourself a favor, cum first, get drunk later.

10.   Be Vocal

Learn how to talk and ask for what you really want.  If you want something kinkier than what you’ve been used to, say it. Being open and honest with yourself and your partner will lower your inhibitions so you can concentrate on the task at hand. It doesn’t matter how weird you want to get, never knock it off until you try. I’ve heard many women say: “I want to let go. I want to feel uninhibited and full of desire.” That could be your route to score an intense shaking orgasm for all I know.

Finally

For the gents, remember it’s not all about giving her an orgasm. Your job is to explore all her sensitive spots and to improve the sexual gratification, and in the process, things will fall into place

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