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How do you convince your girlfriend to have a threesome?

Few men would give up the opportunity to have a threesome with their girlfriend. But while the idea might sound simple in theory, it can be anything but. One thing you need to understand about females is that they can be really jealous and protective when it comes to sharing their men. Introducing the idea of a threesome with another woman is a tricky path to tread.

For instance, you might come out as too enthusiastic, giving her a heap of reasons as to why you would want to have sex with another woman. She might think she does not satisfy you sexually, you no longer find her attractive, or you are already having an affair among other reasons. That will instantly put her on the defensive and is likely to result in a misunderstanding than a steamy threesome.

That said, women also harbor fantasies of having multiple partners in bed, it’s just that they are not as quick to act on them. It’s hardly taboo anymore. But that doesn’t mean the idea of a threesome is something you can just drop on someone out of the blues. You have to sweet-talk her into considering the idea. Who knows? She might eventually be the one begging in the end. Read on and find out how…

Communication is key

It all starts with saying the right words. You can’t just start the conversation in the middle of breakfast and be like “I want a threesome, what do you think?” That would only result in a bitter argument. You have to be really smart about it. You may start by talking about sex in general and then venture into something like ‘I’d like to see you being pleasured by another woman.’ You will have already shown her that it’s about her. How caring of you. If she disagrees, drop the topic because if you push too hard, you will only be validating her insecurities.

It is also important to gauge your partner’s limitations. If she is the kind that gets jealous just by you looking at another woman, don’t even think about it. One thing that might have a girl purring with excitement can have another puking in disgust so tread carefully. My advice? Let her be the one who makes the rules, so she doesn’t feel left out. If she decides to back put, don’t be the asshole that gets mad about it.

But with who

Let’s say she agrees. But who are you going to do it with? That might seem like a simple question, but it is actually a pretty complicated scenario. If you pick a stranger, you don’t know about the person and where they’ve been and with whom. And where are you going to find them; at a club? A swingers’ party? Dating sites?

Likewise, if you choose a person you are familiar with, there is the potential awkwardness of knowing that person. Take time to decide who the third person will be. No need to be in a rush.

The conditions

It’s good to go through the conditions before taking a plunge into a threesome, so to say. There could be a few rules like; no anal, no kissing or whatever. Some couples think kissing on the mouth is too personal. Set your limitations depending on what both of you are comfortable with. By the end of the day, it all comes down to what you are OK with. Be mindful of the boundaries you set as stepping out of line can make you lose the whole relationship. Females can be a crazy lot, and you’d be well advised not to awaken her crazy side on purpose.

No one said it has to be two women

So, what if your girl decides she wants to bring another dude in the mix instead of a chick? You can’t possibly get pissed off, can you? That kind of hypocrisy is off-putting. I mean, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander. In that case, you still need to establish the rules; for instance, no actual penetration or kissing in the mouth. While I know several guys who would entertain the idea of their chick being smashed by another man, I could count them on the one hand. The point is, if you don’t like the idea of flipping threesome both ways, you are probably just a selfish prick.

Make her feel special

Whoever you decide on as the third party, remember they are just but guests. Make your woman feel special; like she is the most important person in the room. It doesn’t matter how hot the chick you invited looks, keep the focus on your partner. That way, she won’t feel threatened. If she doesn’t want you to try something with the other party, respect her wishes. Having two horny females in one room is already a thrilling prospect. Don’t do something that will ruin the whole night. Show her your appreciation that she has been a dope girlfriend for accepting the idea.

Finally

Just like anything else regarding sex, it all comes down to the individual. All I can do for now is wish you the very best of luck. Remember to glove the fuck up. You can never be too careful in such scenarios.

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