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How do you have phone sex with a girl?

Despite all the technological advancements, long-distance sex is pretty much what it used to be in the 18th century when Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone so women could describe how sexy their legs looked to their men. Fuck it; I’m just kidding. But that’s how awkward phone sex may feel like if you are not doing it right.

The truth is, phone sex can be a great way to spice up your sex life especially if you are in a long distance relationship. The idea of phone sex might sound silly if you’ve never heard about it. If you are seeing yourself alone on a couch talking to your partner, hand in the undies and the television just about the only source of light in the room, then you are envisioning it wrong.

So, are you in a long distance relationship or for whatever reasons you would like to enjoy the wonders of having phone sex with a girl? Then you need to pay some fucking attention. I’ve had a decent amount of phone sex, and I’m as qualified as anyone to be your guide on how to go about it. It has everything to do with letting loose, stop being self-conscious, and setting your mind to be turned on, even if you feel silly at first.

Plan a late night date

Phone sex, just like any other sex can ‘just occur.’ However, phone sex works better when it’s planned ahead, especially if it’s the first time. You don’t want to call her when you are in bed feeling hot and heavy, and she is somewhere shivering in the rain. The night is the ideal time because she will probably be in bed in her PJs or sipping some late night wine. One way or the other, you want her to be in a private moment, which is a conducive environment for romance. If it’s the first time, it’s also advisable to discuss what you are going to talk about during the phone sex.

Get in the mood

Phone sex can feel awkward and silly if you are tense. Do whatever you have to feel sexy and relaxed. There are lots of things you can do to relax; you can lie on the bed for a while, sip a glass of wine, sing a silly song, dance in front of a mirror and more. Imagine your lover naked or the steamy sex you’d like to have with her and all that stuff. However, don’t get yourself too turned on, its what the phone call is all about remember?

Take your time

Do NOT rush the call. You want to deepen the connection before getting intimate. You may spend a few minutes chatting and building the trust because ultimately, she won’t talk dirty with you if she is not feeling comfortable and secure. Does that sound like too much work? Then you’d probably be better off sending pics of your dick to random whores on Snapchat.

Introducing the right topic

Getting started is probably the hardest part especially if it’s the first time. Try to pick a topic that’s not only easy to pick up but one that has the potential to spiral into steamier topics. You could tell her how you wish she was there with you, how much you miss her, what you are wearing and how you look in it, what you are imagining, and so on. You could also get her to return the favor.

If she is to consider having a sexy talk with you, she has to feel attracted to you. Remember to use the 80/20 rule; 80 percent conversation and 20 percent flirting. That means in the conversation; you will need to throw in some flirtatious sexual banter, compliments, sexual innuendos, personal questions (for instance, “What’s the craziest place you’ve had in sex?” and such.

This is when you put her to a litmus test, so to speak. If she is responding well (laughing, flirting back, continuing the conversation), that’s the cue for you to continue being bold and sexual. In the rare case that she is hesitating, you need to take a step back for a minute and then going back at it. Remember you are not going to achieve phone sex by acting like some platonic friend; you need to think of it as verbal foreplay. She will be comfortable and turned on as fuck. If you’ve reached a point where you are discussing sexual topics and flirting, and she is still laughing, congratulations. You are ready for the next step.

Move into a more sexual dynamic

First of all, you need to be using a seductive voice; a low and slower paced tone to be specific. A high pitched voice has never turned on anyone. Transition to more sexual topics that will tell her where the conversation is headed next.  A good question may be “What are you wearing?” which is one of the easiest questions for her to answer. She will know you are not asking such a question in the middle of the night for fashion purposes.  She will either answer with details of what she is wearing or will ask you why you asked which is even better because you will tell her you are just imagining how she looks at that particular time. She will know she is getting into sexual territory.

Escalate the discussion by telling her what she should do with her hands. For instance, you could tell her to run the tips of her fingers down her inner thigh, run it into her underwear and gently tease her clit. If she accepts your suggestion, keep going. Within no time, she will be doing all this on her own, moaning and breathing heavily in the process.

Escalate

Encourage her to continue indulging in her pleasure.  All the while, keep telling her sexy things like how her moaning is turning you on. Show her that she can be comfortable with you and within no time, she will be feeling really horny for you, and with a little probing, she will even admit to wanting to have sex with you. She is most likely longing to see you in person, and you can invite her to something the following day. Trust me, you will have established a sexual connection, and the next step is having real sex with her.

It wasn’t that hard after all, was it? Meanwhile, check out arousr to chat with hot girls and probably practice your pick up lines.

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