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How to Have Sex Like a Male Porn Star

This article is about the porn industry’s unsung heroes – male porn stars.

Back in the wild west Kazaa days, when I watched my first porno, I thought of male performers as these blue-blooded sex gods with unlimited pools of stamina and unwavering boners. In my eyes and in the eyes of many other mere mortal men, these studs were truly the cocksure heroes of today. They came, they fucked and they definitely conquered. Seeing these journeymen hole-pounders bed vixen after vixen with such virile finesse made me immediately want to learn their secrets. How do they stay hard for so long? How do they cum on command? And more importantly, how could I apply this to my own sex life? Where would I start?

Enter Conor Coxxx. In this day and age when traditional “manly” male porn star stereotypes are being challenged and upended, Conor is the new breed of male performer. He isn’t rippling with muscles on top of muscles. He doesn’t have a shitty faux-hawk or barbed wire tattoos. He’s an affable, extremely down-to-earth dude who likes playing guitar and smoking a little pot.

I had the chance to sit down and interview young hole-smasher extraordinaire, Conor Coxxx and ask him a bunch of personal sex questions. From sex pills to producing monster jizz bombs, here’s everything you wanted to know about having sex like a male porn star that you were too afraid to ask. Enjoy.

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1.) Conor Coxxx! Thanks for doing this interview! Before we begin, could you tell our readers a little bit about yourself? Backstory? What made you want to get into porn? How long have you been doing it?

Sure thing! When I got into porn about 5 years ago I had just entered my 6th year as a vocalist/guitarist in an “indie rock” band called The Last Relapse. Finances were non-existent, our gear was breaking, rent was due, I started exploring alternative options and thought why not porn? I’ve never been content with pursuing jobs that do not stem from my interests. Playing music and having sex are my favorite things to do so I figured that if I could make a living doing either it would never feel like hard work. I didn’t know if I could perform on camera or not and I didn’t know much about the industry really. I didn’t even know my dick was that big at the time (lol) looking back I definitely had a lot of good luck come my way. Don’t get me wrong. I did a lot of research, put a lot of work into contacting industry people, and tried to get my name out there however possible, but even when you do all of that this is a VERY hard industry to break into. The first few months I started shooting I assumed it was likely just going to be a temporary thing, but it ended up escalating better than I ever could have imagined.

2.) How many scenes have you been in?

I lost count in the first few months when I hit around 50. Giving it my best guess I would say I have performed in somewhere between 600-700 Boy/Girl related scenes.

3.) In your best estimation, do lots of male porn stars use male enhancement? Do you use any male enhancement pills like Viagra or Cialis? Herbal supplements? All natural?

Yes, most male porn stars use some sort of male enhancement pill. But there are some guys that do it all natural. The main thing to consider when it comes to this is most of the time you don’t know what you’re doing exactly until you show up at the shoot. Sometimes it’s super easy…like a quick scene of normal sex on a bed with a beautiful girl and then you realize “I really didn’t need to take a pill for this”. Other times you have to have sex for hours in crazy uncomfortable positions and there can be a variety of negative factors added to that like a girl that doesn’t want to be there or breaks in between each shot. Generally the more you have to stop in between shots the more difficult it is for performers, but producers have a vision they want to capture in each scene so you really have to be ready for whatever circumstance is thrown at you. Sometimes it’s difficult to the point of what is required of you isn’t natural or normally humanely possible and without a doubt pills can make guys harder and make them cum more than they ever could naturally.

All of this considered I will typically take something if it seems like it’s going to be a longer or more difficult shoot. If it’s something simple I’ll go all natural. Typically I get to set, assess what I am in for, and decide accordingly. For when I do take something I go back and forth between Cialis and Viagra. The “herbal” pills at sex shops I wouldn’t trust. They aren’t FDA approved so the companies that make the pills don’t have to list all the ingredients. From what I hear a lot of these pills have Cialis and/or Viagra in them anyway and I would rather be in control of my dosage. I’m a small guy, I don’t need a large dose. In my experience every pill I have ever taken stops working after a while. You will have a good run with it until something starts going wrong and you need to switch to another one and then maybe a few months later go back to the one you were using. So it’s important to be aware of how the medications are making you feel and take notice if things start changing.

There are a lot of herbs out there that are helpful for male libido. Catuaba Bark, Muira Puama, Ginseng I use regularly. I know there are a lot of other good ones out there. My best advice for a person outside of the industry would be to go the herbal route and do some research in the herbal supplement area. It’s definitely the healthier route and all you need for your normal bedroom activities as you’re not fucking upside down for hours on staircases with camera guys over your shoulder. And your job doesn’t depend on it unless your girl is really harsh!

4.) Is there a special diet you follow to produce huge cum loads?

Celery, coconut water, zinc, oysters, and most importantly stay VERY hydrated.

5.) And now for the million dollar question…How do you last so damn long? I read somewhere about edging from Ron Jeremy. Do you try to think of non-sexual things to last longer?

Another crucial question! This answer varies for male performers so I can only share my experience.
For me, stamina is mostly about listening to my body and knowing my dick well lol. There are times when you’re having sex where you are becoming more and more erect and working towards orgasm and it’s important to know how to calm your body down. A lot of the times you’ll notice your muscles simultaneously clinching up when you’re at this point. So when I start feeling this I will breathe deep and relax all of my muscles completely (especially the kegel muscles) and try to put myself in a totally relaxed state of body and mind, or maybe pull out and give my dick a slap or two or give the girl oral for a minute or so, or start counting calendar days backwards, or start thinking of horrible things and avoid thoughts that turn me on, or pinch myself with my nails, or start fucking the girl harder and try to physically exhaust myself, whatever feels right at the time to get to a point of “reset”. With a lot of practice I’ve discovered these types of things to work for me, the key is to find what works for you. Control your dick, don’t let it control you!

6.) Nice. Easier than done! Do you look up to any male porn stars?

I look up to some male porn stars for sure. Any guy that has done more scenes than I have and is still a down to earth approachable person I look up to. I respect all male performers because I know what they go through. I always say “it’s not all fun and games”

7.) How do you get through a scene if you’re not really attracted to a girl?

I love pussy! If I can fuck my fleshlight or my hand then I can fuck a girl I’m not attracted to and be just fine. Let’s be real- it still feels good either way and luckily performing has always been more of a physical thing then a mental thing for me personally so it doesn’t phase me.

8.) What happens if you bust your nut too early in a scene? How long does it take for you to recharge?

Haha, this is simply not allowed. If I did that I’d have to worry about people talking shit and it affecting me getting shoots. I have only made that mistake once in my entire career and it was my first scene. Luckily though, if this ever somehow did happen I have always had a quick recovery time. If I had about 20 minutes to recover I’d be ready for a 2nd scene.

9.) Do you work out? If so, do you find that working out improves overall performance or not really?

Yeah I do. Mostly yoga and floor exercises, but also a little bit of weight lifting and cardio. It definitely helps. The more you work out the more aware you are of your body and as I mentioned when it comes to stamina this is important. Also you’ll obviously be able to fuck for a longer amount of time if you’re in good shape. It is hard to maintain an erection if you’re worn out. Though it is amazing the limits your body will push itself to while having sex…something about it inspires you to go much further than you’d go in the gym. Pretty sure I’ve almost died a few times lol

10.) I hear porn scenes take hours to shoot. How do you keep your boner for so long?

This comes back to knowing your dick. It helps to get yourself to a point where you know how to stay fully hard without being close to orgasm. This just takes practice. Stay turned on, but not TOO turned on!

11.) Any sex tips to help guys satisfy their women?

First of all, if you’re not used to having sex for long periods of time it’s going to be very difficult for you to all of a sudden do that. I’d recommend getting a fleshlight and fucking the hell out of it daily for 30 minutes to a hour before you let yourself cum. Focus on your breathing and what happens with your muscles throughout it, eventually you get to a point of being able to control all of that. Exercise, meditate, eat healthy.
Every time you masturbate consider it practice and think more along the lines of “How can I get my dick to be as hard as possible without feeling like I need to cum?” instead of focusing on the end goal of cumming. With some practice you should discover your own ways to do this.

Set high goals for yourself or remove expectations altogether. If you go into sex thinking- If I can just last 10 minutes and make her cum once then I can cum then that’s probably all you will do, if that… But if you go into it wanting to fuck her for a hour and make her cum repeatedly until she can’t take anymore you are more likely to hold yourself to that standard.

Last, but certainly not least do penis exercises.

12.) As a fellow weed connoisseur, what are your thoughts on fucking on weed?

I’m all for it! I don’t notice much of a difference performance wise, but it makes sex feel better and more enjoyable then it already is.

13.) Thank you very much for your time Conor! Any final thoughts?
Thank you as well! Remember that sex is fun and practice makes perfect. Stay positive, stay healthy, and keep it up!

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Did you get all that kind reader? You can find Conor Coxxx on Twitter @ConorCoxxx. Conor also runs a modeling agency website here and you can also check out his videos here.

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