How to masturbate for women?

I’m about to drop one huge bombshell: women masturbate. The big secret is out peeps. You see, female masturbation is a taboo topic, and I’m thinking as you are reading this, you are probably tucked in some corner peering over for any nosy passersby. But that should not be the case. Masturbation has many health benefits besides being the easiest way a woman can achieve the elusive orgasm. It is a natural way to feel good, know when you are hot and probably release the built up sexual tension. It has no downsides and its fun. Sure, why not?

Seeing that masturbation is something that people don’t usually talk about, you are lucky if you have discovered a technique that works for you and you might find it easy to stick with that forever. But there is still a lot to discover about yourself and finding new ways you can show yourself some love might allow you to discover more about your turn on and desires. Whether you want to try masturbation for the first time or you are a seasoned masturbation queen, the following tips will help you have a cracking time.

Get in the mood

If you are looking forward to having a wonderful time, you have to be in the right mood. This varies from person to person, but the music goes a long way. Others might just need to lie on the bed, hit the shower, light some candles, or whatever. Do whatever you have to do to get easy and comfortable. Put on some sexy lingerie; sit on a comfy chair etc.

Get some privacy

This one is a no-brainer really. If you want to relax and have a wonderful time really, you need to be in a place you won’t be disturbed by anyone. For many, this means the safe confines of their bedroom or when their roommate/partner is not around. Switching off your phone or putting it on silent mode would also be a good idea. This way, you won’t have to worry about anyone hearing you if you are the kind that gets vocal as you rub one out.

Focus on exploring first

If you are experimenting with masturbation, avoid over pressuring yourself to orgasm. That will suck the fun out of the whole exercise. The same goes for sex by the way. A lot of women are so hell-bent on achieving that orgasm they end up missing it altogether. Don’t make that mistake.

Think of it as a way of discovering new ways to stimulate yourself as opposed to the quickest way to an orgasm. You have lots of years ahead of you to masturbate, so it’s not like there is a rush. Try different positions, different stroking speeds, and different levels of pressure and master the techniques that give you the best pleasure.

Clitorically speaking

Most women find it easier to have a clitoral orgasm than a vaginal one. That means you have to focus on the clitoris. For those who don’t know what a clitoris is, it is the small nub of skin located just above the vagina that gets slightly bigger when you are aroused.

Rub it gently with your fingers. You will obviously find it sensitive, and you will derive more pleasure if you provide indirect stimulation. Use one finger to run circles around your clitoris as opposed to applying direct stimulation. It would be best if you started slowly, gradually increasing the intensity as you approach climax. Start by using one finger, two fingers, three fingers, four fingers, and your entire hand.

Use one finger at either side of the clit and rub gently up and down. Keep your underwear on and rub the clitoris through the fabric. You may also pull your labia together and rub the clit over the folds of skin. As you approach climax, ease off the pressure. You will find it too sensitive to touch anyway.

Fun fact: the clit is the only part of your body that’s there for the sole reason of providing pleasure.

Find your G-spot

Many women prefer G-spot orgasm to clitoral orgasm. But to stimulate it, you have to locate the g-spot. Unlike the clitoris, it only appears when you are aroused. It is also located inside the vagina, on the frontal wall. It has a slightly rough surface to touch, much like the upper part of your mouth.

To stimulate it, insert the middle and index fingers inside the vagina and make the ‘come here’ motion with one of the fingers to massage it. If properly stimulated, it can provide orgasms of very high intensity. So, you are welcome.

Lube is necessary

If you want to make your masturbation session even more pleasurable, I would highly recommend the use of lube. There are different types of lube, but water-based lubes are usually the best to avoid irritation and sometimes infections. When aroused, your body self-lubricates, but sometimes it may not be enough and lube will make your hand wetter and increase the pleasure.

Sex toys

Sex toys are another great way of intensifying your orgasms, and there are a number of toys you can use. Vibrators are probably the best bet, but there are perfectly shaped dildos that will equally get the job done. Either way, take your time to know what best works for you. Visit our best adult online shops section and see the variety of sex toys currently available. Thank me later.


There is no right or wrong way to masturbate, but applying the above tips will make you see the stars with mind shattering orgasms.  Go ahead and rub one out because, why the hell not.

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