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Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Haley

Nancy posts on XPT:

In the main, the sex industry attracts women who are troubled and disenfranchised: emotionally, financially, educationally, etc. The number of true porn exhibitionists–women, in other words, who would do this sort of thing for the sort of pay they would receive at the other jobs they are qualified to do (usually Starbucks cashier work)–are few (and of those, probably most have psych problems, traumatic pasts, etc.). I think we all can accept this much.

Porn work doesn’t necessarily create the problems these women have, but it very often exacerbates them, and in almost no cases does it help to rectify them. You might think of it as a petri dish for growing desperation. You need the seeds, but the porn industry just provides a fertile environment that stimulates their growth.

We all should be sad that Hailey Paige died. But we should also accept that porn probably multiplied this girl’s problems, as it does for most of these women.

In short, we as porn consumers are very often feeding on womens’ troubles, and I think Warp Speed just brought that out explicitly and took it to its logical conclusion. Very few of these girls who make it out of porn to a relatively normal existence (and don’t end up doing MILF-porn work till theyre gray) look back on it as a terrific part of their lives. We are jerking to women who are struggling (even if they’re making great money–take one look at multimillioniare Jenna Jameson and tell me she isn’t struggling with body image issues, aging, and so forth).

So when we express sadness that Haley died, let us also express some grief about who we are–not just that we did nothing to help her fly straight, but that we did, in all likelihood, actually contribute (as porn consumers and [for some of us] producers) to this woman’s misery.

So the next time you post a banana man jerk when you hear a girl did porn just to make rent, or to feed a habit, think about Haley and her demise and what the fuck it is your saying…

To his credit, Warp (perhaps unwittingly) showed us the naked lunch–what it is that’s on the end of everyone’s forks.

Pinupmutant writes:

Really? None of you are responsible?

Are habitual cocaine users, by driving the demand for coca leaf production, contributing to cartel violence in Columbia and Bolivia and environmental damage as virgin forests are clear cut to make way for coca? Uh-huh.

Are consumers who want cheap sneakers and plastic shit from Walmart supporting child labor in the process? You betcha.

If you drink Napa or Sonoma wine, did a Mexican die in the desert after paying a grand to a coyote for passage so he could work in vineyard for shit pay? Yup.

Do you, porn consumers of XPT, by consuming porn which continues to reach for new lows of violence, degradation, and gross-out cheap stunts, contribute to a cycle of traumatization of already fucked-up young people? Yes, you do.

Fuck Jesus and Shelley Lubben. This is a website that celebrates misanthropy in all its forms. If you’re all the badasses that you make yourselves out to be daily basis, then put your money where your mouth is, and simply say:

“Yes, I help porn whores hit rock bottom with every purchase I make, and you know what? I don’t care.”

We are all users in one way or another. There’s no point in denying it, is there?

Voltaire Jones emails: “Maybe when you watch Calista Flockhart you are just making her eating disorder worse by watching her on TV and adding to her popularity and thus her anxiety. Maybe when you go to the local restaurant and buy a meal, you are keeping the cook coming to a job that is holding him back from his true love of singing country music. You bastards! If you would just stop your evil consuming all those sad people could have happy lives!”

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