Sex addiction is real good people. While the ‘condition’ has continued to attract expert opinion, there is no denying the fact that there are people out there whose appetite for sex is utterly insatiable. A good example is Rebecca Baker, mother of three from Tadcaster in North Yorkshire. The 37-year-old had such a massive desire for sex that being fucked five times a day was just wasn’t enough! It is the first thing she thought about when she woke up, and she was always nagging her partner for sex until it ruined their relationship. She couldn’t just get sex out of her mind.
Such was Rebecca’s sex addiction that she even felt too ashamed to venture outside the confines of her home. Granted, no one could read her mind, and sex addiction is not something that screams for attention, yet, it still made her feel uncomfortable being around people since sex was all she could think about.
At first, her partner used to enjoy the attention. As you would imagine, not many men would give up the opportunity to get laid, but as things got thick, he couldn’t understand it at all. It was becoming insurmountable to both of them to a point where he questioned her intentions. Her husband must have wondered where this sudden, constant desire for intimacy had come from.
Rebecca said: “He accused me of having an affair – he thought I must have been feeling guilty about it and that’s why I wanted sex with him.”
The sex addiction came after she was diagnosed with depression following the birth of her third child in 2014. It was then that she started craving sex more frequently. She says, “The addiction got so bad that even if I had sex five times a day, it just wasn’t enough for me.” Sex was giving her “the instant hit, and five minutes later I wanted it again,” she said.
As earlier mentioned, her condition led to the break up with her husband after she felt that she needed a change. She thought that she needed a break from the relationship and went to live with her mother in November 2014.
“When I left, I told my partner I needed to get better. He let me go; then the relationship broke down very quickly after that,” she said. “I was under the care of a psychiatrist at the time – she kept saying she would alter my medication but she never said there were any support groups or anything.”
She has since made several lifestyle changes that have drastically improved her life. They include breaking up with her partner, changing jobs and moving to France. She has since reigned supreme on both the sex addiction and depression. Her only regret is sex addiction is not recognized by the NHS which she, along with other people who have suffered from the compulsion, think it should.
But just what is sex addiction?
Put simply; sex addiction is ‘any sexual activity that feels out of control.’ It can be both damaging and life destroying. One particular sex addict confessed to cheating on his wife with hundreds of sex workers, and instead of being satisfied, it left him with “rip-roaring guilt.”
“When you are in full-blown addiction you are obsessed with thinking about it – from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep,” the unnamed addict said before adding: “It was a horrible, gross experience – there is nothing sexy about it. When you wake up in the morning with a dose of chlamydia, it is not sexy.”
The addict, who is now in his 60s says he even tried to build relationships with some of the whores he fucked beside spending hundreds of pounds a month for sex over several years. Unlike cheating which may be borne out of one partner being unhappy in the relationship, sex addiction is entirely different. “You have one affair, and then you want another and another one.”
The quickest way to fulfill the sexual desires is by paying, and addicts have been known to see escorts and sex workers up to three or four times per week (besides the occasional fuck with their wives as well). When it’s over, “you feel guilty and remorseful and swear not to do it again,” only for the cycle to repeat itself.
Is there help?
In the UK, there is the Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) which is comprised of 78 self-help groups spread throughout the country. SAA offers an abstinence-based treatment more like the No Fap community which helps people abstain from fapping. Addicts find it a huge relief to be a part of a group with members as ‘miserable and sordid’ as they are. Addicts with some money to spare can seek private professional help.
ThePornDude wishes to encourage any of his readers who may be suffering from sex addiction that there is a way out and they can indeed break the cycle. The last thing I want is for you to end up like Rebecca Baker.